There is a maturity period for everything under the sun; there is
a period for bearing fruits and a time for investment to mature.
Plants and animals have theirs and humans also have theirs in
various forms; it takes a woman nine months of pregnancy to
give birth; schooling has its maturity period depending on what
you are studying, the institution and country.
But sadly there are people dating who don’t know when they are
getting married and don’t even know when to let go of such
relationships. There are some ladies, who are constantly on the
neck of their guys, to walk them to the altar, after five years of
dating and nothing seems to be happening.
What makes you think a man is serious with you and wants to
get married to you? This is one question whose answers from
random ladies get me amused. To some the way the guy talks
shows how serious he is, to others because they have been
given a promise ring, to others still, it’s because he has taken
them home and they know their parents, while some say he has
come to see my parents.
Besides all these efforts, nothing seems like the marriage is
going to come anytime soon. This makes the ladies behave like
debt collectors, pushing their guys to redeem or pay back the
marriage promise made to them.
Nobody steps into the unknown without having at least an idea
of a possible outcome. If its schooling, you know the number of
years so you plan accordingly; when it’s about planting, you
have idea of when it will mature or bear fruit; so what prevents
one from setting aside a specific time for dating?
This happens because people take dating as pre-marriage
school, once they start dating, they assumed they will
automatically get married to the person at all cost.
Dating for three, five or more years without any plans for
marriage only means you are good enough to be his girlfriend
but not good enough to become his wife.
Don’t get comfortable with such a position and forget you can
easily be replaced. Let nobody tell you that they are not making
an effort because of monetary issues. It has more to do with
your net worth in their life. If they see you as a wife, they will do
all it takes to get married to you.
This is not the time for you to cry, think of wasted time or force
him to marry you. Not even giving him a child will make him
stay in marriage with you.
Listen to me, when a man’s actions don’t represent what you
truly deserve, it’s time to let go! You cannot make him see your
worth or value. Sometimes we are in love with the idea and
don’t pay attention to the reality.
Always remember, when you hold unto a wrong person, you put
your joy, peace, love, hope and faith in jeopardy.
In conclusion, examine the relationship you are in now “And if it bears fruit, good. But if not, cut it down”.