Having a strong relationship is a major goal for couples, but many relationships fall short of this important quality. And finding someone wonderful to spend time with is a huge blessing, but it doesn’t always come easy.
It takes time and patience to build a meaningful and happy relationship. Let’s share with you some core things that you need in order to make this happen.
- Be kind
Develop the habit of being kind. Thinking positively about your partner may make you feel good, but it doesn’t show him how you feel. If you’re a writer, send him a loving note. If you enjoy buying small tokens or gifts, go shopping for him. Be sure you’re doing the kindness for him and not just for yourself. Random or little acts of kindness will build your connection and help you solidify your relationship.
- Appreciate your partner
It’s one thing to appreciate your partner, and it’s an entirely different skill to show that appreciation, through words and actions, in a way that truly registers. A generic comment of appreciation like, “That was great,” or “Thanks,” probably won’t hit the mark. But if you can express what you’re grateful for, your words will go a lot further. Show appreciation by being specific. When you are tuned in to what is meaningful to your partner, he will feel loved, understood, and appreciated. And he will start showing you appreciation as well.
- Pay attention
One of the keys to a strong relationship is paying attention to your partner’s feelings. Pay attention to what bothers your partner and stop doing it. Sometimes someone will tell you in a straightforward way that something bothers them. Other people you date may expect you to just know. Either way, start to pay more attention to verbal and nonverbal cues. Being attentive is important when building and maintaining a loving and caring relationship.