How to handle a cheating partner
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Getting involved with a cheating partner is not an easy thing to handle. Learning how to deal with a cheater can help you regain control of your life and help you decide how you want to proceed. While keying the cheater’s car may seem like a cathartic reaction, this is not going to help you move, nor will it make you feel any better.
The adverse emotional and mental side effects of being cheated on can stay with you for a lifetime. Being cheated on stirs up insecurities, low self-esteem, distrust, inability to open up, give you feelings of worthlessness, and make you question your qualities and physical appearance. Dealing with a cheater is emotionally devastating and can change your personality for years to come.
Have you ever got involved with a cheating partner, or one who isn’t committed or never remorseful about how they treat you in the relationship? There is this adage that says “A cheater doesn’t know what they’ve been doing until they get cheated on”.
Disclaimer: We do not not say this method is 100% accurate for everybody, we’re only giving the key things you u should first put in place in handling a cheating partner
Here’s our key method in handling a cheating partner
Accept Your Feelings
Shock, agitation, fear, pain, depression, and confusion are normal. You will likely feel like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster for a while.1 It takes time to get beyond the pain of having an unfaithful mate. Don’t expect the mixture of feelings and the mistrust to go away even if you’re trying to forgive your partner and repair your marriage. Your marriage has changed and it is natural to grieve the relationship you once had.
Don’t Seek Revenge
Being betrayed by your partner can induce rage. In your furious state, your first instinct may be to punish your mate by trash-talking him to friends (or worse, on social media), or think about having an affair yourself to get even. You may get a temporary sense of satisfaction from these sorts of actions, but ultimately they can work against you, keeping you in a state of anger instead of focusing on healing and moving on, alone or together.
Think before you tell your family, as well. They will likely have strong opinions about what you should do—leave or stay. But nobody else really understands what goes on in another person’s marriage. While you are pondering how you’re going to proceed, it’s best to keep the details private.
Try to Take Care of Yourself
You may have some physical reactions due to stress such as nausea, diarrhea, sleep problems (too little or too much), shakiness, difficulty concentrating, not wanting to eat, or overeating. Once the initial shock has passed, try your best to eat healthy foods, to stay on a schedule, to sleep regular hours, to get some exercise each day, to drink plenty of water, and, yes, to have some fun.
Avoid putting blames
Blaming yourself, your partner, or the third party won’t change anything and it’s just wasted energy. Try not to play the victim, either, if you can help it, or wallow in self-pity. It will only make you feel more helpless and bad about yourself.
Keep Your Kids or 3rd party out of It
This situation is between you and your partner and should not involve your children or any third party. Even if you have decided to end your marriage or relationship sharing details about an affair will only put your kids in an untenable position, causing them anxiety, making them feel stuck in the middle, and forced to take sides.
Don’t try to get through coping with unfaithfulness alone. Before you make any decisions about whether or not to end your marriage, it’s wise to talk to a couple’s counselor, who will be neutral and can help you gain insight into what exactly happened. You can ask your partner questions and share your feelings without losing your cool.
An experienced therapist can help you communicate better and process feelings of guilt, shame, and whatever else you might be feeling. If you decide to end the marriage, you ‘ll know that you tried your best to make it work.
Finally, Prayer is the key
The family that prays together, stays together. Whether dying courting, marriage, etc. Learn to pray together or pray for your partner alone. As a woman, when things gets out of hand you’ll learn to fight on your knees